Because loneliness can be a blessing. | {W2W Guest Post}

Today I’m throwing the door and my arms wide open to a woman who has blessed me over and over through her words on living surrendered to the sacred. I never leave Anne’s place without being challenged and encouraged and always brought back to the Giver of Hope – our only Hope. Her words here offer the same…

Our emptiness is the shape of God's love. - Anne Dahlhauser | meredithbernard.com | Woman to Woman

This is a sacred place – this path, just wide enough for my feet alone.

Here, there is a blessing of loneliness. For this time, in this space, God’s plan holds out an invitation, all wrapped up in suffering and tears and disappointment.

And I hardly recognize the divine stamp on it, but there it is: fingerprints of Jesus and the purpose of the Almighty all over my dismay.

Because, though the circumstances slay me, in this – because of it I sense a welcoming, an ushering from the One whose voice calms waves and whose hands uphold my heart. He asks me to meet Him in this and to come alone, for I am changed alone before His throne.

And, I will move on from this point a different person than before. For this time- this cross-clinging time with Hope buried deep under my fingernails and Grace burning in my lungs – has marked me up and changed me entirely.

But how can this loneliness ever be a blessing? Because it’s an invitation to His heart – one I now pray He won’t ever let me decline.

It’s a prompting from my wounded Savior to sink more deeply, more completely into His arms, once bloodied by sacrifice.

It’s a calling to find true companionship at His pierced side, secured by the only One who has ever understood friendship and love.

Yes, there is a blessing of loneliness – not just in the midst of loneliness but because of loneliness.

For through it, our souls – still looking around us for comfort – finally accept that the vast longing, the emptiness is only the shape of God’s love.

Then He offers Himself – the only remedy, the only assurance, the only filling. And we desperately wrap our sanity and trust and confidence around that which He offers –

because finally


we understand our need.


Anne Dahlhauser blogs at Front Porch, Inspired about surrendering everyday living for sacred purposes. She and her husband, Jay, are founders of a ministry called The Bridge, focusing on missional living, training, and intercultural relationships. She holds an MA in Teaching Languages (English and Spanish) and is a lover of words and the Word, culture and communication. Jay and Anne have four young kids, a front door that can’t stay closed, and an abundance of messy, holy chaos at their neighborhood center/home in Iowa – of all places.

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  • Thank you for helping me look at loneliness in a different light. I’m blessed by your words today! Thank you for using your gifts to bless others!ReplyCancel

  • Joanne Viola

    This is just beautiful! Loneliness >>”It’s a prompting from my wounded Savior to sink more deeply, more completely into His arms, once bloodied by sacrifice.” May we all sink more deeply today because you shared your words with us. Thank you!ReplyCancel

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  • Simply for One

    It’s amazing that God can stir in us gratitude for the transformation that comes through pain. The process can seem almost unbearable but the fruit is so sweet – He’s that big. Thank you for sharing your words here.ReplyCancel

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  • Life is good: Living Proof

    This is beautiful, I love this “But how can this loneliness ever be a blessing? Because it’s an invitation to His heart – ” Thank you for sharing!!ReplyCancel

  • Baseball & Tutus

    Anne, This is amazing. You completely spoke to my heart. To a place that has needed addressed for a long time. Thank you for opening my eyes to this. I have felt lonely for a long time, but never thought of it as a blessing. My perspective has changed now. Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • Kristi Woods

    Ann, you’ve hit the target with such an elegant arrow. This is a lesson I’m learning, I’m in process now. Your words ring true. Thank you for sharing them.ReplyCancel

  • Beautifully written. Those seasons of loneliness are the times I’m reminded to draw closer to God. We each have a God-sized hole which can only be filled by Him. I don’t hate the lonely seasons anymore because they always seem to be readying me for whats to come…busy.ReplyCancel

  • Karen Brown

    This is beautiful, Ann – Emptiness is an invitation to true companionship…to the only relationship that can fill. Thank you for sharing this encouraging message and for pointing me to Jesus.ReplyCancel

  • Anne, what a beautiful post for #w2w. I have been blessed to now think: “YES, THERE IS A BLESSING OF LONELINESS – NOT JUST IN THE MIDST OF LONELINESS BUT BECAUSE OF LONELINESS.”

    Thanks for encouraging me today!ReplyCancel

  • Anne- beautiful, poetic words, and even more so because you have lived them. Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • for whatever reason, this reminds me of the song “Be Still and Know That I Am God”. In the loneliness, the stillness, we connect in ways we can’t when we are rushing through the demands of life, with screaming kids in tow, dogs barking, and needy husbands. It’s when I sit by myself, that I reflect on how I’m measuring up as a Christian. How beautiful (and horrifying) the sacrifice Jesus made was. And I’m renewed and challenged to do better.ReplyCancel