How changing your mind can change your life.

Change your mind. Change your heart. Change your life. | meredithbernard.com | Living Like I’m Dying | #write31days Hi. My name is Meredith. I’m an angry mother…wife…woman.

Since this is my last month to live, I’m becoming ultra aware of my reality and how blissfully unaware I’ve been. The ugly truth is that I am an angry person. Not all of the time, but even some or most of the time is not the way I want to spend my last days with my family. Something has to change.

My friend whose actions prompted me to propel into this challenge has also asked to me read a book with her. Together we are plowing through Lysa Terkeurst’s “Unglued.” Seems she needs it and thinks maybe I could benefit, too. Sometimes a good friend can see what we don’t and an even better one will tell us in love and help us work through it.

What makes me a dying, angry woman? Oh, let me count the ways.

So yesterday as I commenced to yelling back at yelling children on the way home from pre-school and spitting rocks from tires after skidding to a halt in our dirt drive with threats galore, it appears I may have a problem.

And then after going back to said truck after getting groceries and kids deposited through tears in the house, and leaning on tailgate with head in hands, tears down face and a plea to God to “just help me,” it appears I may have a problem.

And then at the supper table after dealing with uncooked rice from a steamer that didn’t work the way I had hoped and 45 minutes to finish a supper that had been cooking all day, I’m reminded that I’m an angry woman and asked “why?”…it appears I may have a problem. 

I stuck to my guns (for a change) and got my girl to bed in her own bed (for a change), with much more drama and many more tears. Then I opened that book that seems to be about the story of my life and read about changing thoughts in order to change actions.

It’s also in that other Book written to tell the story of my life. It says it’s possible, so it must be…this ability to renew minds and be transformed.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Romans 12:2

There it is. Change your mind to change your heart to change your life.

Conform not to your world, but let your world conform to you…when your thoughts are worth conforming to.

Then be able and available to know and do God’s perfect will.

There is a formula worth figuring out. This is worth praying over and crying over and trying over.

I hope God can help this angry woman change before my time is up. More than my life is in the balance…this is my legacy to my family and I don’t want to go out this way.

How about you? Does your mind need renewing in some way today…to make way for a better tomorrow?

Living Like I’m Dying | meredithbernard.com | 31 Days of WritingDay 8 of Living Like I’m Dying. Catch up all posts here and please come back for more. I’d be honored to have you on this journey with me. Also check out my friend Kirsten, the Indebted Mom, who is taking this challenge for 31 days with me. Follow my social media feeds and hashtag #livinglikedying31 for more photos and thoughts.

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Welcome to the second #woman2woman Wednesday during this 31 day writers challenge I’ve embarked on and thank you for coming back! This time of sharing on Wednesdays is born of my desire to talk about “woman stuff “ in a way that builds the sisterhood up and always points us towards Christ. Always and in all grace.

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  • […] This post by my friend, Meredith Bernard, is beautiful: Change Your Thoughts = Change Your Life. Actually, I could read Meredith Bernard’s words all the day long. Any post. Any […]ReplyCancel

  • I understand anger, especially anger towards our children. I go through cycles. Sometimes I’m doing well. Other times, not so much. Especially with one child in particular–and it wasn’t the one I would have expected! This one has a tender heart, which makes me mad at me. But thankfully, his tenderness gives forgiveness easily. A reminder to me of God’s grace. Thanks for sharing this part of yourself.ReplyCancel

    • Yes, I’m all about cycles, too, Dianne, (but sometimes my cycle gets stuck!) My children are constant reminders of God’s grace, too…it’s amazing how much they give. I wrote about that once. Thank you for allowing me to be myself and for reading and for linking up today. Blessings to you!ReplyCancel

  • Amy Dalke

    And my comment posted before I was finished. Anyhow- patience on a negative scale, is what I was saying. Unglued rocked my world when I read it- and I’m sitting here sort of rolling my eyes (in a good way) at what was obviously a divinely inspired reminder… 🙂 So yeah, thanks for that!ReplyCancel

    • Haha, yes, I also have patience on a negative scale. 😛 I hope I can get through this book soon (before my times up 😉 ) and let it keep rocking my world. I need to be rocked! Love you…xoxoReplyCancel

  • Amy Dalke

    This is one of my all-time favorite verses- and it’s actually what I spoke on Sunday night! I’m with you…I snap into anger way too quickly. It’s like I have patience on a negativeReplyCancel

  • Kasey Hanson

    Hey Meredith,
    Thank you for your honesty. It helps me to not take myself so seriously. I definitely have room for improvement being an angry mom and I love how you encourage us. I pray God blesses you as you stay strong through this 31 day challenge. It’s no joke.ReplyCancel

    • I’m glad you are encouraged, I sometimes second guess if I’m encouraging or not, and I don’t want to be here if I’m not. Thank you for your prayers, seriously…I know this isn’t a joke and I hope He keeps giving me insight and direction…21 more days is still a long time! xoxoReplyCancel

      • Kasey Hanson

        Meredith, I took the 31 day writing challenge too and I was trying to say “this is hard” and “great job”. I hope my poor words of no joke didn’t come across any other way. I’m praying God teaches us all kinds of things!ReplyCancel

        • Oh, not at all, Kasey!!! Sorry if my words came across to make you think they did. Words. Words. Words. Ha. Thank you for being here and I’m glad to be in this together. xoxoReplyCancel

  • Meredith,
    You commented on my 31 Day challenge of God-Woven Moments: you could do all the spinning and weaving of wool, but it happens to be something that I wanted to learn back when I was in my 20s and it was in the 1970s when a variety of arts were kind of new to me back then. This one stuck and I pursued it for many-a-year.
    Your challenge is truly the tough one between us. To think upon this for 31 days and even for me to read upon it for this month makes this life take on a whole new perspective.
    Thank you for putting yourself out there in this way as you honor God in being honest and open.
    Caring through Christ, ~ lindaReplyCancel

    • Hi Linda! That’s just so neat that you can do that, what a lost art. 🙂 Thank you for visiting and for the encouraging words. I hope I can keep this up another 21 days and that God will keep pouring truth into me to pour out. Blessings to you!ReplyCancel

  • All your posts are so beautiful Meredith. I love that this one ties in to some of what I’ve been studying lately. Isn’t it fun when God does that? So thankful for your words and the beauty you pour out in this blog.ReplyCancel

    • I do think it’s awesome when God gives us the same message over and over…it’s been necessary in my life for me to actually “get” what He’s trying to tell me more than once! 😉 Love you and your heart and words, too, Jolene. Thank you for blessing me. xoxoReplyCancel

  • I love your transparency, Meredith. I’m sure many of us moms can relate to being an angry mama. I know I was for too many years of my boys younger years. And I still have my moments but oh so grateful for how He has renewed my mind and thinking. Grateful for how He is never finished with me. Prayers lifted for you, sweet friend. {Hugs}ReplyCancel

    • I’m glad you love my transparency, Beth, because some days I second guess it. 😉 That would be today. But it’s out and I’ve never claimed to be anything but perfectly imperfect, so this is just another way I fit that statement to a “t.” 😉 I’m grateful to know that the renewing of mind and thinking is possible…I mean, I know that, but to hear you say it from experience is a blessing. Thank you for being in this place and for your friendship. {{hugs}} back. 😉ReplyCancel

  • Just the other day I found myself asking, “When did I get this temper?” It seems like it’s come out even more with our second child. I have that book and read the first few chapters…I NEED to finish it. Thank you bravely sharing your heart here, friend and pushing me to make this commitment with you. I want to do better, with his help.ReplyCancel

    • Oh, Abby, don’t I know! And I’m so scared my temper is causing my girl to show hers even more. We are in this together…you and I, with His help. We can do this. I’d love for you to read it with me…I’m only on chapter 3, but I’m determined to get through it! Love you.ReplyCancel

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  • Hi Friend- I’ve missed you. Just started reading my “Top 10” 31 day series today, and read this post of yours. Thank you. Oh, I am an angry mama too (and wife and woman- I guess I’ll admit those too since you already did and paved the brave way to confession). Admitting it is a big step in the right direction, right? Praying for Him to help us “change our mind” (I said that last part with southern sass- did you hear it?) 🙂 Proud of you for writing your heart that others may be drawn to His.ReplyCancel

    • Hi Katie, I’ve missed you, too. And I apologize for being so absent…this challenge is a challenge in a lot of ways, notably time in an already crazy month. But don’t ever doubt I love you and I’m here for you!!! So, I’m glad to know I’m not alone. This was honestly a hard post to write and hit publish..I second guessed it even at 3am when I woke up thinking about it. Thank you for your words of encouragement and for “being here” even when I’ve not been there for you lately. I really do love and appreciate you!ReplyCancel