Maybe you married your high-school prince charming…and twenty years later he still is. Maybe your kids are over-achievers in every way. Maybe your home is a Pinterest-Perfect display fit for the pages of Southern Living. Maybe you have a successful business or satisfying job. Maybe your life is flawless.
And then again…maybe not.
Maybe the gold-plated frame around your life is tarnished with past regrets and future dreams shattered. Maybe the frame around your life is cracked and barely holding life together at all.
And maybe you are somewhere in-between. I think most of us are most days. Life is nothing, if not a series of highs and lows, right?
What I’m learning is that in order to make it to the highs, we must live through the lows.
In fact, without experiencing the lows of life, we’d never have a launching pad to make it to the highs of life.
Since hearing this dreamer talk about paying attention to her tears, I’ve been paying more attention to mine. Not the ones that come from burning my hand on the stove, or even the ones out of frustration or anger when things go wrong. No, I’m talking about those tears that come out of nowhere at a certain site driving down the road, or are triggered from a smell that triggers another memory of days past, or even from reading someone else’s FaceBook post about their beautiful marriage and thankful life.
Those are the tears that came recently and they got me thinking. What is it about her life and that post that brought me to tears? They came from a part of me that I am not proud of, nor want to readily admit.
They came from that part of my soul that longs for more than I have. That part of my soul that can never be content with where I am, and always wondering “what if…?” And then I stop myself, because, yeah, “what if…?”
What if I had made all the right decisions and none of the wrong ones?
What if I had done what I had really wanted to do and gone to college out of state, moved out west away from all family and all familiar to “live a little”?
What if I had spared others hurt feelings as a teenager and stayed in a relationship with someone that was ready to take things further, but the feeling wasn’t mutual?
Where are they now and where would we be?
When I stop and really consider these “what if’s” I know the answers and I dry the tears.
Without making all the decisions I did, right, wrong and indifferent, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.
If I had never made all the wrong choices, I may never have realized my need to say “Yes” to my Savior who redeemed me from my depravity. Not that making wrong choices is right, but wrong choices can be exactly what God uses to eventually guide us to the right path.
If I had moved away, I may have never come back. I may have married and had children that had no chance to know their grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.
If I had stayed in relationships to spare others feelings, I wouldn’t have made choices (right or wrong) that have landed me where I am now, with a man that would die for me and our children, who bends over backwards to provide for his family, and whom I do love with all of my heart.
If I had chosen differently, I wouldn’t have the two little people that God has used to make my life complete, and that He uses to draw me to Him…over and over and over again.
It’s easy to look at her life and see perfect. When in reality she has the same struggles, unfulfilled dreams and has asked herself the same “what if” questions.
What matters is how we let our past shape our today…for the better. Not living in the past and wishing we were something or somewhere we aren’t. Because in every ounce of my being I believe these words to be true…God has you and me exactly where He wants us.
If your life has been surrendered to God, you are being led by God. Even if you make a wrong choice, He will always make it right.
Don’t take my word for it. Take His…
Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” –John 8:12 ESV
Even if you “think” you are in control, you aren’t. And that should be reassuring. It is to me. Because I lived long enough being controlled by the darkness. And now, even if I make a wrong choice, I know He will make it right.
There’s nothing I can do by walking in the Light, that the Light won’t make right.
And once forgiven, always saved, because who the Son sets free…is free indeed. Forever. And always. And forever. Amen.
What choices do you need to let go of today and let God replace the feelings of “what if” with “what a beautiful place I have you…?”
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