Sometimes the best way to get an answer is to just ask. Sounds obvious, but we don’t always see the obvious, or is that just me?
I’ve been knowing that my man hasn’t felt as loved or appreciated as he should, but I also haven’t done anything about it. I’m too busy. Yeah, that excuse is so overrated.
A disclaimer here is that he doesn’t know I’m writing this series and my hope is that in 31 days he will know in many ways, which makes this challenge as personal as it can get for me. Is it too much to hope for a new “me” in such a short time?
Last night in the quiet of this house he built thirty years ago and in the still of this home we are still building day-by-day, I asked the question. “If I died tomorrow, would you know I loved you…and what can I do different to make you feel my love more?”
The words were heartfelt and tender, both of which can be hard for me to muster at times. My keyboard has a much better way of getting those feelings out than my mouth ever does.
In words as tried and true as the blue jeans and boots he puts on every morning, he answered as gracious and earnest as I had asked. Turns out he does know I love him, but yes, there is room for improvement.
It seems my perception and his perception are not on the same plane. Sure, every marriage has that, I suppose. But our perception is our truth and our truth is the lens of our world, which makes this fact incredibly important in the life and health of a marriage.
Today I purpose to start his day and mine in a way he doesn’t just assume he is loved, but he knows it. He knows it, because I show it…in word and deed. In a new way.
There are a million little ways to live love large.
Take this from God’s word and let it soak in deep today…
“My dear children, let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love. This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s reality. It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves.”
Day 3 of Living Like I’m Dying. Thanks for being along for the ride…we are just getting started and I’m still not sure where we are going, but that’s how I tend to roll anyway. If you want to make sure you get my daily (hopefully) updates, please subscribe in the sidebar and/or follow any of my social media feeds. Please and thank you! xoxo, mb